I've come to the conclusion that teen fiction creates way too many unrealistic expectations about romance. I want to clear up some of these. If any of these ring true or false for you, or even if you just want to debate one or another or talk about it, comment down at the bottom or contact me directly through my contact form.
1. Men don't bring you flowers randomly. They might buy some for Valentine's Day, or your birthday, but very rarely do they think to buy you flowers on a random day, just to make your day a little brighter.
2. Men don't write love letters or poetry to you like books and movies suggest. I don't think they realize how romantic we find it. Or maybe they just don't want to put the effort in. Or maybe it's just that they think we'll laugh at them. For any men reading this, we will not laugh at you. No matter how bad they poetry is, we will find it romantic and cute.
3. Men do want to have sex with you. I don't care if they say they can wait, or if they insist that it's not their top priority--they still think about it and they still want it from you.
4. Men are not always the confident ones. If you like someone, you can't just wait for them to approach you, because more often than not, it won't happen. Perhaps most books portray the guy as being the strong, confident one that always approaches the girl, but I am trying to be realistic here...and guys can be just as shy as girls.
5. In real life, the bad boy is not actually the one you want to have in your life. The bad boy is the guy who drinks a lot, or does drugs, or hangs with the wrong crowd. Maybe it looks attractive, but it's not the situation you want to put yourself in. Bad boys like the ones from books don't exist. It's an unfortunate truth.
6. Going off number five, if there is a bad boy, keep in mind that you probably can't change him, nor should you have to. If he has to change who he is, or if you have to change who you are to be with him, he's not the right guy for you.
7. One last thing that I think is really important, especially to girls that have not ever had a major relationship or even much affection from guys. Don't fall for the first guy who gives you compliments and attention. Be aware of the situation and make an informed decision. Just because a guy is showering you with compliment and love, or even just paying attention to you, does not mean that he is the one for you. He could be a total creep, or the two of you could be nothing alike, or worse. I know it's hard, especially if you've never been given a compliment in your life, to step back and assess the situation, but take it from someone who's been in the situation and knows people who have been in the situation; if you don't take that step back, you could end up in a much worse place than you are now.
Alright ladies, any comments, questions, suggestions? Comment below because I'm interested to hear. These are, of course, only my opinions based on my personal experiences, but I think most of them have at least some ring of truth to them. What do you think?
1. Men don't bring you flowers randomly. They might buy some for Valentine's Day, or your birthday, but very rarely do they think to buy you flowers on a random day, just to make your day a little brighter.
2. Men don't write love letters or poetry to you like books and movies suggest. I don't think they realize how romantic we find it. Or maybe they just don't want to put the effort in. Or maybe it's just that they think we'll laugh at them. For any men reading this, we will not laugh at you. No matter how bad they poetry is, we will find it romantic and cute.
3. Men do want to have sex with you. I don't care if they say they can wait, or if they insist that it's not their top priority--they still think about it and they still want it from you.
4. Men are not always the confident ones. If you like someone, you can't just wait for them to approach you, because more often than not, it won't happen. Perhaps most books portray the guy as being the strong, confident one that always approaches the girl, but I am trying to be realistic here...and guys can be just as shy as girls.
5. In real life, the bad boy is not actually the one you want to have in your life. The bad boy is the guy who drinks a lot, or does drugs, or hangs with the wrong crowd. Maybe it looks attractive, but it's not the situation you want to put yourself in. Bad boys like the ones from books don't exist. It's an unfortunate truth.
6. Going off number five, if there is a bad boy, keep in mind that you probably can't change him, nor should you have to. If he has to change who he is, or if you have to change who you are to be with him, he's not the right guy for you.
7. One last thing that I think is really important, especially to girls that have not ever had a major relationship or even much affection from guys. Don't fall for the first guy who gives you compliments and attention. Be aware of the situation and make an informed decision. Just because a guy is showering you with compliment and love, or even just paying attention to you, does not mean that he is the one for you. He could be a total creep, or the two of you could be nothing alike, or worse. I know it's hard, especially if you've never been given a compliment in your life, to step back and assess the situation, but take it from someone who's been in the situation and knows people who have been in the situation; if you don't take that step back, you could end up in a much worse place than you are now.
Alright ladies, any comments, questions, suggestions? Comment below because I'm interested to hear. These are, of course, only my opinions based on my personal experiences, but I think most of them have at least some ring of truth to them. What do you think?